CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE

In my DVD Embrace your Fears I have carried out several interviews with people who have managed to over come or should I say cope with dramatic events in their lives.
As a trained counsellor I deal with people on a daily basis who are facing or have faced traumatic events.
A lot of people when they first come to see me blame everybody else for the things that are going on around them and sometimes the people around us are a pain in the backside. However the only thing that you can control in your life is you. Let me say that again, the only thing that you can control in your life is you. To be more specific the only thing that you can control in your life is your attitude towards life it’s self.
One of the guys I interviewed on the DVD was Steve Smith. When Steve was forty years old and working as the head of a scaffolding gang, he fell and injured his back. Steve went from being a very fit, independent, happy go lucky man to a disabled, depressed guy in a wheel chair paralysed from the waist down.
By his own admission the first two years of life in a wheel chair were very hard and he went through a spell of grieving for his old body. After two years Steve decided that this was his new life and he could either accept it and get on with it or spend the rest of his life in misery, pining for what once was.
He is now one of the happiest people I have ever met; the first thing you notice about him is his big smile and raucous laugh. He has gone from being a scaffolder to a computer genius, having studied many various aspects of computers.
Steve realised he had a choice and although it must have been a very difficult choice, he chose to make the best of what he had left. There is a saying that God will not close a door without opening a window.
Steve is a great inspiration to all of us, but how many days do you get up and something goes wrong? You spill your coffee, you can’t find your keys, and you are late.
What happens to your attitude? Do you let that spilt coffee ruin your whole day? You argue with your wife, you admonish the kids, you fall out with your work colleagues or customers and why? Was it the coffees fault? Your wife’s fault? Your kid’s fault? Or was it down to your own attitude?
Remember you always have a choice.