LOOK IN FIRST

We started a new master class last Sunday and once again we had eight great people on it. As usual everyone was nervous to start with. I always remind them that this is a good thing. The fact that they are nervous but still turn up is a credit to them and they should be proud of that fact. One of the things I like about grappling is that it forces me to do the very things that are unnatural to me. For example there are certain positions where I am naturally tempted to turn away from my opponent to escape. However in doing this I will be playing right into my opponents hands. What I need to do is to go against the grain and turn into my opponent. This is so true of life to get the answers we have to go in. While we look out and blame everybody else nothing will ever change. We have to go in and take responsibility for our own actions. I always say to my self how did I allow this situation to happen, how did I cause it? The only thing I can control is my own attitude and I choose to be happy and to live and love my life and if I have to go against the grain and turn in then so be it. A friend sent me this saying from Carl Jung last week.

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens.

I was talking to my mum yesterday, she is one of my idols, I know I am by est but she is a fantastic human being. She said to its a pity the university cant give you more work (I work two days a week there as a counsellor). I said mum they offered me a full time job and I turned it down. She was absolutely gob smacked and asked me why I did that. I laughed and said mum I am living the life that I was put here to do and its fantastic. She just smiled and nodded in agreement. I have turned away from the traditional get a job mentality but to do this I really did have to turn in and go very deep for all of the resources I needed to go against the grain.
People have been giving me great credit recently for my one to one counselling/coaching work which is really nice. But I believe everyone has the answers to their own problems within themselves and this in a way makes it easy for me to help them Because they already know the answers they just don't know that they know yet! So look in first, take responsibility and then look out at others with humility and compassion because after all we are all trying to make a path through this life.

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Take care for now, warmest Regards Tony